Our extensive experience, training and specialisation ensures that we are using the latest and most suitable methods for you, your partner, and your situation.
The approach we take is a proactive one , with a focus on communication, conflict resolution and the rebuilding of trust and closeness. At the same time we address issues and concerns... based on an international, accredited couple counselling model, but still incorporating individual counselling where required.
Is your marriage or relationship struggling ... have you lost the passion, do you feel like housemates, are you arguing over inconsequential things? If you answered yes then choosing the right relationship counsellor is the MOST IMPORTANT DECISION you may ever have to make in your life - as your relationship has more impact on your, health and overall happiness than any other aspect of you life (click here to read testimonials).
Our focus is help you rebuild a great relationship... which is very different to counselling. Same as how business people have a business coach or athletes have a sports coach - to educate, challenge, encourage, support, assist, etc. Although we are usually referred to as a relationship or marriage counsellor, we are a coach or mentor, as we help you 'work on' your relationship - which is a separate entity to you as individuals. Watching the Olympics there were amazing floor gymnasts who had incredible ball skills - but put them all together on a basketball court and they would fail against a competitor with lesser individual skills but with a strong team approach. Individually you may be good people, but that does not mean you are great at relationships, or work well as a couple - our job as a coach is to help you work well as a couple - to help make the marriage and relationship strong!
People are very different, men and women are very different, and our minds are far more complex in how they operate and react than most of us have any idea of - yet we expect to be able to share our lives (24 hours, 7 days a week!) with someone who has their own individual personality with different beliefs, values, experiences and aspirations.
And we expect to achieve this with limited knowledge, understanding and skills to deal with all the challenges a relationship presents, something that every couple is least prepared for.
It is widely acknowledged that marriage and relationship coaching is totally different to other forms of counselling. Being a relationship coach requires an entirely different approach and training to a counsellor - it is like comparing your GP to a personal trainer (click here to read about the Gottman Method).
Therefore, when trusting a coach to help you with your future happiness, ensure you are choosing a coach who specialises in relationships and marriages ... someone who has the knowledge, training, experience, materials and tools ... the the passion and commitment to help you achieve your goals.
The Relationship Specialists is totally passionate about couple coaching and is 100% committed to helping make your marriage and relationship work - and for you to achieve your desired goals. (click here for contact details & locations).
There has been much research to identify the key factors that contribute to divorce. Although it varies greatly with every couple, there are certain behaviours that if continued almost guarantee in the relationship failing. (click here to read The Top 20 List). If you are willing to acknowledge that these behaviours are unacceptable, and are willing to put your partner's feelings first - then you can once again enjoy a great relationship.
Counsellors are trained in helping individuals cope with everyday life, psychologists are trained in Mental Illness and CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy).
Marriage Guidance / Relationship coaches are focussing on the relationship that is under threat, often caused by differing needs and wants and communication styles.
Therefore when working with couples, what is required is coaching, mentoring, education, interventions and practical exercises.
You will find in the library articles about relationships, marriage, couples and individuals, as well as book reviews and a relationship questionnaire. If there is something that is of help please download it and print it off. If you can get your relationship back on track without having to see a counsellor - then that is even better news!
Our promise to you is that we will give 110% to helping you work through your marriage and relationship issues, to enable you to enjoy being a couple again.
We will also continue to develop our knowledge, tools and handouts along with world-wide best practices - and that you, client, will always receive the very best support and help possible (click here to learn more about us).
We also undertake regular ongoing training and professional development to keep up to date with the latest methods and learnings, as well as meet regularly 'in-house' to insure our clients are receiving the best help possible.
Sometimes one or both have their own deep seated challenges or issues as well. When this is the case, while continuing to work with you we will also refer you to one of our associates who specialises in other areas such as anxiety, depression, mental illness, etc.
Our focus is to help you based on the goals you have for coming along - but more importantly - what you are ready to change.
you said if we were "both committed...." and you were right
… things couldn’t be better!! We have been relating really well to each other and spending a lot of time together again.
… so all in all, you have worked miracles! … I’d like to thank you for all your invaluable advice and your impartial position. JB
Couple, Marriage and Individual Coaching St Ives - Karen Adams
Couple, Marriage and Individual Coaching Crows Nest - Fiona McQuabe
Couple. Marriage and Individual Coaching Turramurra - Neil Buckley
Couple, Marriage and Individual Coaching Bondi - Annie Peros
A counsellor is available for individual and couple counselling 7 days a week - daytime and evenings - whether by phone or face to face.
Our Counsellors provide Individual, Couple, Marriage and Relationship Coaching across the Sydney North Shore and Sydney Eastern Suburbs including Mona Vale, Newport, Thornleigh, Pennant Hills, Hornsby, Turramurra, Pymble, Wahroonga, St Ives, Gordon, Lindfield, Crows Nest, St Leonards, North Sydney, Cremorne, Mosman, Bondi, Bondi Beach, Tamarama, Clovelly
Relationship Counselling, Marriage Guidance and couple counselling is our speciality and we ensure that you receive the highest quality of service and focus as it is extremely important to us that you find Northside Counselling and The Relationship Specialists extremely professional and helpful in all your marriage issues.
NorthSide Counselling was actually our old name - but we renamed ourselves The Relationship Specialists based on the fact that this is the area we do specialise in.
Annie Peros, who is situated in Bondi Beach, is our Marketing Director - and she believed that the change was important for us to continue to grow in the Sydney Market. Bondi and Bondi Beach is a new area for us regards counselling, marriage guidance and couple couple counselling as there are a lot of counsellors and relationship specialists in that area